Sunday, November 30, 2008

Wow. It's been over a week since I last blogged? Time does fly.

Shawn came home last week and I don't think that I have ever missed anyone as much as I missed him while he was away. After spending the first night catching up, we ran away from home and holed up in a hotel for a couple of days. (We were a mere two blocks from our house). It was just what we needed. Of course, Kayla and Cody came by to check out our 'fort', but other than that, we were pretty much alone.

It was heavenly.

I am starting to feel the Christmas spirit again. Our Christmas village grew so much that we had to do major renos to find the real estate for it. Hopefully, it will up and glowing by this time tomorrow. I am almost a whole month behind on the project.


There has been more drama in Shawn's family and we are doing our best to not get sucked in. It is so easy to get caught up in crap, but I am trying to focus on the family that lives under our roof, not the extended ones.


It looks like Cody will be here through the holidays, too. I don't talk about it much, but the situation with his mother has just gotten progressively worse.

She has little or no contact with him, contibutes zero dollars to his expenses (she says that she is no longer responsible for him), but refuses to let me speak to the school or write notes on his behalf. She lives in another town, and has no idea what is doing or with whom....She can't write him notes simply because of the logistics, and she won't let me do anything for him.

It pisses me off to no end. I can pay his way, buy him clothes, lunches, give him bus fare, but I can't write a freaking note to the school or talk to his teachers. It seems to me that she wants it both ways.

Cody asked about going to see her and his siblings over the holidays. He was told that he is not welocome to spend the night there, and is not welcome on Christmas morning. He can go by on Christmas Eve for a couple of hours.

I haven't spoken to this woman.

No, I mean like EVER. I said hi to her once and that is IT. She has no clue what kind of people we are or if we are taking care of her child. She just couldn`t care less.

It infuritates me to no end, but for Cody`s sake, I remain silent. (Trust me, this is incredibly difficult for me).

ARGH!

Cody is more than welcome to stay with us. We will make him feel as though he is part of the family and he will have a great holiday here.

So....that`s about it. I am happy as pig in sh*t to have my family back together, and I am soo looking forward to the holidays with the rest of my family.

I just keep reminding myself that things could be much worse.

13 comments:

Palm Springs Savant said...

Glad you have your family together and things are going well. That situation with Cody's mom is annoying. Hope it eventually gets resolved, for his sake~

Burfica said...

I'm glad you got you some teddy bear lovin. hehehehehehe

And just love cody, sounds like it's what he needs most. He will know in the end.

Gabriel said...

Well, what can I say... again, the proof that you need a license to drive, but anybody can be a mother... :-(

Happy to see that Christmas spirit is back, alive and kicking. Had you been at our church last night, you would have seen it more alive than ever! Juan and Florencia were candle bearers at our Advent service last night, and Carolina was a reader. I sang, of course, and we were joined by a bell choir that was just heavenly.

Too bad about the weather, there were only about 50 people in church!

Heidi the Hick said...

OH sooooo good to hear from you! Did you know your answering machine's not working????? Anyways I'm glad to hear you two ran off for a shack-up! He missed you big time. Believe me, I know what it's like to not see each other for days.

So, does the school even know that Cody is living with you guys? That woman's a control freak, but doesn't want any responsibility: bad combo.

Today I plan to clean off my piano, teak oil it, and when it's dry my little Christmas barn is going on top!

Gardenia said...

Cody is lucky to have you. It blows my mind the coldness some people have toward their children. She must be ignorant of the fact that she is legally responsible for him until he is 18. My daughter is going through something similar with her significant other of 9 years - her son turned 17 and he no longer wants to feed him. I'm trying not to hope that he doesn't get fed (the SOL) so he can see how it feels. Grrrrr.

Getting off that - you sound up and excited and that is making me smile as I read the rest of your post - another blogger mentioned that this year, their immediate family comes first - I'm feeling that way too - get those chikadees under my wings, and have a warm, beautiful, wonderful Christmas - not so much 'bout the present, but the LOVE! You go, girl!

Biddie said...

palm springs savant - I can't do much about Cody's mom, I am just trying to keep my big mouth closed so that Cody doen't feel badly about things..We don't mind having him as a part of our family and I know that one of these days his mom will come to regret her bad parenting.

burfica - We do love Cody. He is so easy to love, that is why it blows my mind that his mom is such a b...you know.
I am soo glad that I got some loving too!

Biddie said...

gabriel - I know..It makes no sense to me. There are far too many parents out there that are deadbeats. I haev no idea HOW you could ever treat your child this way....
Sometimes I miss my lil church so much. Christmas and Easter were my fav times...I used to teach Sunday school and I had all of the little kids up there singing and reading...
There is a live nativity up the street from our house and I hope that this year we make it. I thinnk that it is just what I need to feel the Christmas spirit :)

Tod said...

Running off to a motel sounds like just what you both needed!

Heidi the Hick said...

phone tag I'm it!

captain corky said...

Cody's mother has real issues, but at least he has you guys looking after him. Can't she be put in jail for like abandoning her kid or some shit?

I'm getting pretty excited about Christmas too. Almost time to put up the tree. Do you think at 17 months Max is ready for that kind of excitement? ;)

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