Tuesday, September 05, 2006

I Need A Life

I was told recently that blogging is a "waste of time" and people who blog need to "get a life."
I was hurt by this statement at first. See, I'm a bi-polar, depressed, anxiety ridden, OCD-ing mess. I am, and I am still coming to terms with it. Blogging has really helped me. I share my opinions, stories, triumphs and sadness with people from around the world. I have blog buddies in Michigan, the U.K.,New York,British Columbia, Texas, Ireland....all over, really. Blogging has opened the world up to me. I now have daily contact with people that I would otherwise never know.
I am writing again,too. Writing was my 1st love, my passion. I used to fill notebooks, diarys, and any scrap paper I could find with short stories, and musings. For a long time, there was none of that. I had forgotten how to express myself.
That has all been changing. While I still stuggle daily with my depression, I am beginning to feel good about myself. I look forward to reading everyone's lateast blog, and revel in the amazing photographs that my pals are posting. I'm laughing at their jokes, crying with their sadness, and sharing their joy.
After the shock began to fade at such a hurtful statement, I began to realise something. This person, the negative nay- sayer that put down my efforts ( and those of my friends ), is himself, unhappy. How else could someone that claims to love me say something so negative about something so positive?
I was too shocked to respond to the whole 'get a life' statement. Hubby, however, was not. His reply was simple.
" When was the last time anyone cared about YOUR opinion"?
I didn't need to say anything else. To all of my blog buddies out there ( and you know who you are ), thanks for caring.

24 comments:

dilling said...

Go Hubby! Go Hubby! Go Hubby! Maybe whoever said that to you has nothing worth saying and doesn't understand what we're all about. It's really not so very different than sitting across the sofa from someone, is it? I was most reticent to start blogging myself, but, wowzers, all of a sudden I have a world full of wonderful people in my house...

Life, or Something Like It said...

I feel the same way. I didn't get the whole blog-world thing either, until I started my own blog.
This person likes to ram his opinion down your throat, he has no idea what sharing really is.
Hubby is right, no one really cares to hear what he has to say.Sad to say.

BD said...

Just do what helps you, blogging has given me something I never want to be without...

mjd said...

You obviously have a life and are doing a wonderful job of sharing your life with others throughout the world. If blogging is therapeutic as well, then that is an added bonus.

Life, or Something Like It said...

Writing is very theraputic, and I love blogging. Too bad that when people don't understand something, they put it down. Thanx for coming by, come by anytime....

FOUR DINNERS said...

And we do. Big time. Long as blogging helps / makes you feel ok / relieves the stress / makes you happy or whatever just do it. We'll read and laugh and cry with you. That's what friends are for. even the one's you've never met and probably never will. I owe your hubby a pint. He's a star. tell him he is n all. x

fancy-face said...

hey, you got one right here from Quebec to...and your hubbie is right..
You have to follow your heart and passions, if writing is your passion, then by all means continue..Don't let people get you down so easily..those are the ones that are jealous of you and have nothing else better to do with their time than be mean...
So what do you do? you ignore them for one thing,and when you do feel a little in the dumpster, try also talking with your hubby,you'll be surprised just how much he too can help...
I myself am and was a writer, and I find that writing is relaxing, and it's also fun when it's done like this in a blog...because "yes" we do meet and doodle with alot of people from around the world...that's what makes "BLOGGING" so enjoyable and enriching...so CHIN UP....
here in bloggerland as I call it, I find that some of these strangers that we don't even know, can help us with the things that are own family can't and why???....because I have always said "that strangers can be alot more understanding and more helpfull to our needs as people than our own family...
I myself have made quite a few new and interesting people here, than I can proudly say that their "long distance friends"and they do listen and they do help........xox

Marni said...

Your opinion means everything - his means nothing. You do what makes you feel good and to hell with that negative ass-hat! (Don't you LOVE that word?!)

Life, or Something Like It said...

Wow. Everyone has been so supportive. I agree with marni- he is an ass-hat!
Thanks for all of the kind words.It means alot......

CindyDianne said...

I have recently come up against some similar issues. I think my person called it a "Waste of time mess you call a blog". Whatev!

Obviously these people have are hating and probably because they are lacking something in their own lives.

I love my blog. I love my blog friends. I like what I get out of blogging.

In my opinion, nothing that helps your daily life, helps you feel connected is a waste of time.

Obviously, we have lives!

her indoors said...

you just carry on girl this person is a nobody an more than likely a loner, we are all with you

Heidi the Hick said...

ASS HAT!

I happen to know that you very smart and cute hubby ssaid something else:

When was the last time YOU talked to somebody in _____?

I've said it before, I'll say it again: Your blog is so positive and beautiful. You haven't ever slagged anybody, even those who hurt you in so many ways, including this unnamed somebody who made this insulting comment. What a contribution you're making! I know how much you struggle, every day, and yet look what you're doing here.

I'm proud of you. He doesn't understand. That's all. I do. Lots of people do!

Thank you, my dear.

Camie Vog said...

I am beginning to realize that you and I have more in common than we think...

Don't stop blogging! I appreciate what you have to say, and your topics are always fun and interesting. I, too, have way more online friends than "real" friends. I am a bit reclusive at times, so I found that blog buddies are more accepting of time off. Their feelings don't get hurt, like "real life" friends do when you let their phone calls go to voicemail. Bloggers don't get mad when you say you don't want to discuss something, which is great since my life isn't an open book for all to see. I give you credit for talking about your emotional up's and downs. I still keep a lot of that hidden from most people.
Once again, don't stop blogging!!!

Life, or Something Like It said...

I'm feeling the love! Heidi knows without even mentioning names who said these hurtful words to me. She also knows how my Hubby is. Hubby did say a couple of other things, but the whole 'who wants to hear your opinion'really seemed to hit home.
I really have maded so many new friends. Cami vog hit it on the nose, too. I used to have friends that would never understand why I couldn't pick up the phone, or would be pissed when I didn't.
CindyDianne is right, too. Maybe this person is lacking something in his/her own life..
Anyway, thanx for the love, and thanx for reading!

Tod said...

Hello life,

Isn’t it great to connect up with so many varied people from around the globe? I really enjoy finding out about my fellow bloggers lives and the places they live. I have always found writing therapeutic like you, and I agree that blogging is a fab outlet for our creative energies. And I for one look forward to reading your posts.

Take no notice of nay sayers. I have learned that whatever I do there will always be people out there ready to put me down. It is true, they are just unhappy with their own lives and sometimes they don’t even know it. It is sad.

As long as you enjoy what you do it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. If they can’t relate to blogging it’s their loss!

Life, or Something Like It said...

Thanx for your support. It really does mean so much to me. I have made some awesome new pals...

d34dpuppy said...

keep writing online is a safe place 2 write n u write well.

Life, or Something Like It said...

Thank, you, puppy.

lee said...

someone once told me that my blog was self-serving. at first i was hurt, but then i realized she was right...and that i was absolutely fine with that. yes, my blog is essentially about me...what's wrong with that? introspection is healthy and even necessary if we humans don't want to become complete jerks! what was most ironic was that the person who made the comment is truly one of the most selfish people i have ever known.

Life, or Something Like It said...

Maybe it was the person that told me to get a life. I love blogging, and yes, it is self serving in so many ways. That's ok. I loke to think that maybe my words will help someone else, too.

Laura said...

Blogs are all about the people writing them, so it's understandable your feelings would be hurt. The comment says more about the nay-sayer. Says something like, they're an ass.

I like your husband, he's totally on your side. :)

Life, or Something Like It said...

Thanks, laura, for stopping by. I would agree that this person is an ass. Come back any time!

dilling said...

ass-hat ass-hat ass-hat
heeheehee!!!!!

Life, or Something Like It said...

He is being an ASS- HAT!!!!