Thursday, January 04, 2007

Something To Blog About................

I have been struggling to come up with a blog topic when my ex husband reared his ugly head and gave me fodder.
My 1st husband and I were married in 1989, when I was barely 20, and he was even younger. We already had a 2 1/2 year old daughter, and there was great pressure on us to "Do the right thing." I don't know if it was the right thing, or not, but in August of 1989, we got hitched.
The marriage was a bad one. Rudi (that's right folk's, no more alias, his name is Rudi Horst Stangen) started belittling me and hitting me. The term is 'sexual assualt', but we call it rape. It happened to me on a weekly basis. I'm not telling you this for sympathy, I'm just telling it like it is. When our youngest (not J, she is from #2) was 6 weeks old, he tried to kill me. He did, and he even had the nerve to tell Heidi about it. I was with him for a little more than a year after that. I wanted him to leave, but he controlled everything. I had no access to our joint bank account, and I had to ask when I needed bus fare. If I wanted to go out for an evening, I needed to find a babysitter. I could never afford a sitter, because he controlled the money. I finally found the courage to stand on my own after he started abusing the girls. He pulled KC's arm out of the socket, twice. He shook KK like a rag doll when she was about 14 months old - because she was crying.
Since our seperation, and divorce, things have only gotten worse. Rudi would visit the girls only when he had time...Which was almost never. He would take the girls, and they would come home crying. His step daughters would pee in KC's bed, break their toys, hit them, steal their allowance, and Rudi and his new wife ( mistress, they were f'ing around for over a year before we split), Shannon didn't care. The girls would go weeks or months without a word from Rudi, and then he would show up out of the blue, screaming about his rights.
Once, when KC was 7, I had to phone the police because he refused to bring KC home. Another time, when KK was about 10, he did the same to her, but he actually had her for over a week. When I finally showed up with the police, Shannon wanted to fight me.
The past few years have been especially rough. KK was nearly hospitalized after his last visit. He took her to the mall for 2 hours, and told her all kinds of nonsense. When she came home, she was suicidal, and tried to push me down a flight of stairs. I can not let him near my daughter, who is just now beginning to feel good again.
Rudi has not sent a birthday card or gift in YEARS. He has never attended any special events, even when the girls have begged him to. He stopped paying support for KC in June, and has been paying about 2/3 of what he should be paying for KK. He decided how much he should pay.
Before we moved, he sent the police and Children's Aid to my house about every 6 months. The accusations were always pretty wild, and the file was always closed the same day, because my girls are not in danger, not going hungry, not being beaten, thank you very much. This is how Rudi has fun. He puts energy into being disruptive and destructive. He obviously doesn't care about the kids. He has not phoned or stopped by in a year.
So......Rudi pays me my support in 12 post dated cheques, that he drops off every January (2 weeks late). Since we moved in June, I knew that I had to phone him and give him an address to drop off the support cheques. Our lives have been quiet and peaceful since we have lived here. No Rudi.
I have been having full blown anxiety attacks just thinking about making this phone call. My chest actually hurts, and I'm having difficulty breathing. That's how much I hate conflict. So, I got Shawn to call, and speak with Rudi. Guess what? Rudi won't give me my support until I give him my address.
Now think about this. We moved in June, and he had no idea. He had no idea because he never visits. Or calls. He would never known that we moved, except for Shawn's phone call. So why does he have to have our address? To phone Children's Aid, and the police, and the SPCA. and anyone else that he can think of. He has phoned ex #2, and tried to entice him to the dark side. You would think that x #2 would love to screw me over, right? Maybe. The thing is, as much as #2 might hate, me, he hates Rudi even more.
So, I won't get my support cheques until I give my address. Guess what? It ain't happening.
Shawn got a phone call from Rudi after his conversation with Rudi.
He's going to have us, Shawn and Bridget, (last name Allen , thank you very much) charged with kidnapping.
Interesting. I have full custody. KC is 18, and KK is nearly 16. Neither one want to see him . Ever.
Again.
Can you be charged with kidnapping your own kids? When you have custody? When the ex spouse hasn't even ATTEMPTED a visit in OVER 2 years?
I'll let you know.............
Wow. I feel much better. Blogging really is better than freaking out.
Whew..

92 comments:

.:.KC.:. the brown eyed girl said...

I hate him and if I never see him again I will be happy.
My shoulder/arm will probably never heal right, thanks Dad.
As for Shannon and her hellions she calls children, they better not ever come near me again.
I don't think there are enough words in the world to describe my hatred for this man.

.:.KC.:. the brown eyed girl said...

Also, I am tired of living in fear. I am tired of looking around corners and watching doors to make sure he isn't around. I know he has found me before. He has shown up at the school, at the counselling centre. I am so tired of feeling unsafe.

Biddie said...

Kate - This man has been a nightmare. For almost 20 years..I have kept a diary, I still have it from 2 years ago, when he was causing me problems. I will continue to keep a diary, and believe me, I never meet with him alone.
I did my best to supprt him in seeing the girls as much as I could. I believe that the non custodial parent should also have rights. I don't however, believe that those rights should ever outweigh the rights of the children. There were times when he came to pick the girls up, and he had been drinking. Of course, I refused to let them go. There were times when he was 3 or 4 hours late, and by the time he came, I had taken the kids elsewhere. He would throw a fit if I were ever late when he was dropping the girls off, but he would bring them home hours early, or hours late.
I gave him soo many chances. He would stop viditing for months at a time, and then when he would come knocking, I would let him visit again. This went on for years. The girls and I finally got tired of it. The last time that he showed up on my door, after more than a year of not visiting, I told him to push off. It wasn't healthy for the kids.
I don't think that there a judge alive that would let him visit with KK. She is nearly 16, and he has not exercised his access in years. He has done everything possible to make our lives miserable, including showing up at the girls' school. The principal had to ask him to leave, because KC was scared. He went to the main office and made demands, and sounded like a crazy man. If he shows up again, they will call the police..
I justy want this to all be over, for the sake of the kids. If he reallly cared, he would put them first.
Thanks for the good thoughts...

whimsical brainpan said...

I'm glad you got away from that asshole (and that is me being polite). Do not let him near your kids ever again! If you have full custody there is nothing he can do but try to sue for custody and it sounds like you have plenty of ammo to keep him from getting custody. Maybe you should get post office box. Would that work?

CindyDianne said...

Well, he ought to have to pay his child support without delivering it himself, for one. For two, Rudi is a class A ass. I can't even call him an ass-hat. Your kids absolutely have a right to refuse to see their father after a history like this. Stick to your guns. Stuff like this pisses me off so badly.

SkippyMom said...

HUGS! [this made me cry for you so much - and I already knew all of this! I hope y'all are okay]

In the states you cannot be charged with kidnapping if you have sole custody - I am assuming it is the same in CAN. Your 18 yo does not factor into this equation b/c she is no longer part of the custody agreement having come of age. Your 16 yo is of a mature enough age to explain to any authority what SHE wants and why SHE didn't want to go. You have absolutely nothing to worry about there.

Bravo for deciding to forgo the child support in lieu of the stress he will rain down on you. I know [and you know I know] how incredibly hard it is to go w/o that extra money - but heck - it is so much more quiet than the abuse you would take if you had to give up your address. Hang in there.

Now [and this is the Mom in SkippyMom talking to you girlie] Now...didn't you and I have an agreement in the New Year? Have you made plans to acquire a representative to get some help from the gov't b/c of the lack of support & Shawn's lay off? Hmmmm? Remember? Try sweetie - for your own peace of mind.

I will try and call you later today. Hugs to you always!

Biddie said...

whimsical - A post office box won't work because he won't let it. He has an address for us - it's just not where we live. Shawn told him to meet us at his (Shawn's) mom's house. He won't mail the cheques, because then he can't come and cause truoble. It's just the way he is. He thrives on this shit. I'm not worried about him getting custody, it's just that he'll file the papers anyway, to be an asshole. That's what he does. He wants to keep me going to court and stressing me out. The thing is, if we Do go to court, he'll end up paying MORE money, and he'll have to start paying for the medical now. He has FULL medical benefits, and has never ONCE paid for glasses, or dental, or Rx. I have to pay out of pocket.
I just want him out of my life.


Cindydianne - Like I said, he doesn't have a snowballs chance in hell of winning custody. He doesn't visit, phone, write, or even acknowledge the girls birthdays. In fact, he doesn't even know KK's full name.
Daddy of the year.
I am just tired of his crap. The past few months have been so peaceful. It's all about to end, now.

Tod - He doesn't NEED my address, he just WANTS it. He is a control freak. He didn't even know that we had moved 7 months ago, so that should tell us how often he visits. KK is now afraid that he will show up at her school, and KC is just plain afraid.
He tried to snatch from the mall once, and he will resort to violence if he is confronted. I'm expecting a phone call from ex #2 soon, letting me know that Rudi has been by his place. I am just sick to death of this.

Skippy - Like I said, I am not worried about him gaining custody. I just can't deal with the shit that goes along with him phoning every agency he can think of to make my life hell. It is never ending with him. He will follow the girls, watch their every move, tell the cops that I am beating them....
The scary thing is that is completely delussional. He thinks that he has PROOF of me beating the kids, and that the police also have proof. He fails to realize that if there really were proof, the girls would have been long gone. He actually had a P.I. following me before. The guy is a creep. He should his energy/money/time into rebuilding a life with his kids, not harrassing the crap out of us here.
I haven't forgotten about the other stuff that we discussed. I'm just working on one thing at a time, but I am working on it. :)

Marni said...

My heart aches for you. I cannot imaging having to live in fear like that. Carl and I were talking about a situation around here -- bearded lady -- and WHY people turn so ugly towards one another when it comes to divorce or kids.

We just. don't. get. it.

I cannot fathom being so hurtful and ugly to the mother/father of my children. He sounds like a selfish, hateful, crazy human being that hates HIMSELF so much he has to take it out on you.

Hugs from GA... I'm here for ya, honey!

captain corky said...

He sounds like a real animal! Can you guys take him to court to get the back child support? Such a shitty situation...

I'm glad that you and KC have such a good relationship, and are there for each other.

Biddie said...

marni - I don't get it, either. X #2 and I are not close ( he doesn't visit any of the girls, either, even tho he helped to raise them, and J is his bio kid)and he's kind of a jerk...We don't fight anymore, or cause each other problems. He has his life, I have mine. Rudi just can't be a grown up, even after being apart since the fall of 92. I don't understand where HIS anger comes from. I am seriously worried at this point that he will do something crazy. About 4 months after we sepaerated, he phoned me up and told me that he was coming to my house to kill me. The police picked him up with a LOADED gun in his car. He was charged with about 4 different offences, but the charges were later dropped due to a technicality...
I see no valid reason for him to have my address. He scares the crap outta me.
Thanks for the hugs.

Biddie said...

Corky - I can take him to court, but I don't have the cash resources. I think that if he defaults, I can get financial help, but he won't LEGALLY be in default until February 1st, even though the support is due January 1st.
KC and I don't exactly see eye to eye on a lot of things, but this is one subject that we reamain united on!

Liz said...

What. A. Dickhead.

If we weren't close to the same age I'd swear you were talking about my own father. He has no case, no recourse and nothing but his blowhard bullshit to stand on. I know financially things are tight but I wish you could find some kind of middle man (re:lawyer) where the checks could be sent. Under no circumstances should you give him your address. You were only gonna get the support for 2 more years anyway. I think you're better off without the money.

Biddie said...

Nonny - He is supposed to pay support until the girls are finished school. KC is in college, and he stopped her support in June. I haven't gone after him because he is crazy as a shit house rat.
I know that he has no recourse, but that won't stop him from trying...I have never hated anyone so much in my whole life.
Sorry about your dad. My Mum never paid a penny for support, and I seldom saw her. Too bad these people don't think about the kids.
I really need the money, but I think that I might let this one go....

Tom Bailey said...

This man is clearly bad. If venting here helps you that is great. Look for positives in other areas of your life. It is not as interesting to read positives but focusing on them might be better for you.

This is my first post here.

http://sms100.blogspot.com/

Gardenia said...

I am so sorry you and your girls have been through such horrors. This man is so much better out of your lives. Abusers are control freaks and that's why he's fixated on your address. Boy, I would not want him to have it either? Can you petition the court to have it sent throught he courts? Perhaps you are not able to do that - but I am VERY angry at a man that would do that to his family. Thank God you got out, even though he apparently is a nightmare that just keeps re-occurring at times!

Biddie said...

Tom - I am definetely focusing on the positives! I have 3 great kids and a pretty awesome Hubby. I would like nothing better than to sluff all of the negative crap ouuta my life.
Thanks for stopping by, hope you come again.

Biddie said...

Gardenia - I will be eternally grateful that we got out in one piece. He is absolutely a control freak, and I am not giving in to his demands any more. He HAS to pay his support, and if he doesn't then the gov't will take away his license. That's the law. I almost hope that he tries to take me to court. I will get my lawyer paid for, and he will end up paying through the nose. I just don't think that dealing with his crap is worth it. He scares me.

Heidi the Hick said...

Oh my god, I thought I was having a bad day.

Do not ever ever ever ever give him your address. Ever.

I remember a time when I had no idea how scary he was. That's how well he hid it. My brain snapped when he told me he had his hands around your throat. I couldn't get it through my head. It seemed so unlikely and I couldn't stop thinking about it. That's what scares me most, all these years later-- that he could fool the rest of us.

He can't be in your life. Ever.

I just want you to know that I think it's great that your labels are, "asshole, Rudi"

katy said...

glad you can focus on the good parts of your life, your wonderful husband and your children.
do not give him your address he has fucked around with you for far too long and its time you showed him he can no longer have any controll over you at all.
well done for getting out of that relationship i know that must have been really hard to do
pity all us bloggers cant get to him he would know what had hit him then i promise you that!
hugs to you x

Camie Vog said...

Don't give him your address! This guy is obviously a loose cannon. No amount of money is worth his style of grief.
This post was very emotional. More emotional was the comments from your daughter. She seems to want to break the cycle, for very valid reasons. This man is not a dad, he is meerly a sperm donor.

Blessed said...

goodness gracious YOU have definitely been thru hell and back. I hope things turn out ok. I have been thru an abusive relationship and tho it ended it still haunts me. My dear, I wish you strength and courage.
BLESSINGS!

Biddie said...

Heidi - he does hide it well. He hid it very well when he brought the police to MY house 2 years ago, he hid it well when he was pounding on me, he hid it from everyone, and I helped. That's the way it was. You have no reason to feel guilty. (I know that you do, but seriously, life is too short, and we were so young and stupid.)
I just wish that he would leave us alone. I don't bother him, ever. I phone him once a year, when it's time to drop off my support. That's it. I didn't even call when he stopped paying for KC.
I need the $$ desperately. Shawn has not had a full paycheck in almost a month. ( he has worked 2 days in the past 2+ weeks). Rudi owes this money, but honestly, I don't thgink that I can this, from a mental health standpoint.
SIGH.

Her Indoors - This guy is crazy. Not in fun, happy go lucky way. I just want him out of my life. Short of death, it ain't happening. Thanks for your support, it means alot to me.

Camie vog - KC has put up with his crap for way too long. There was nothing that she could about it when she was a little kid, but she is 18 now, and can make her own choice. It's too bad that things worked out this way. Actually, it's tragic. We have been calling him the sperm donor for years.

Blessed - Thanks for stopping by! I will strength and courage in the coming months, to deal with him. I will not give up my address. Ever.

dilling said...

what a life you lead... i don't know how you do it...all that drama would definitely overwhelm me... good luck.

Biddie said...

Dilling - The drama is definetely overwhelming. That's exactly why I don't want him to know where we live. The drama would never end. I am just so tired of it all. We've been apart for 14 years, but he doesn't seem able to move on. Maybe he'll just get bored. I can use some good luck when it comes to Rudi.

Libbe said...

I'll be thinking of you and hoping it all works out. My ex was a minor in all that and thankfully wife #2 moved him out of state so that got rid of alot of my problems!

Biddie said...

libbe - Rudi was supposed to move to BC, but he decided to stay here. I don't know why, but I was so happy when he said that he was going. I think that the kids would feel safer if he were out of the province.

fancy-face said...

Now thats the old spirit and good for you..I have actually been there myself once upon a time..so I know where your coming from...
But you know what? your gonna be ok..SERIOUSLY...

Biddie said...

Fancy Face - He is so used to getting his own way. I am not giving in this time. If he doesn't pay his support, he'll lose the right to drive. As long he doesn't know where I live, I have no worries. You're right, I will be ok. :)

Dead man walking said...

I am so sorry you are going through this. You have support from your blogging pals always!

stinkypaw said...

Good for you for getting out when you did! Sorry to read that you still have to deal with him. Hang in there and most importantly don't cave! YOU (not him) have full custody, so don't worry you'll be ok!

Best of luck, and BTW loved your labelling for that post "asshole, Rudi"

Biddie said...

danke shane - Hi! Thanks for stopping by and thanks for the support! I love the new look of your blog! Super cute kids!

Biddie said...

stinky paw- Thanks for dropping in! I am NOT going to cave! The 1st comments were from my oldest daughter, and she has made it clear that she does not feel safe with him having our address.
I thought that the labels were rather fitting!

Gardenia said...

I think you are rightfully so, scared. He sounds like someone that it would be very prudent to be afraid of - fear keeps us looking to our safety and our kids safety - although unfortunately it also keeps our adrenaline going and can leave us exhausted emotionally and physically. I pray for extra strength for you.

Gardenia said...

I think you are rightfully so, scared. He sounds like someone that it would be very prudent to be afraid of - fear keeps us looking to our safety and our kids safety - although unfortunately it also keeps our adrenaline going and can leave us exhausted emotionally and physically. I pray for extra strength for you.

Mone said...

It seems to happen all over the world over and over again.
Glad you got away. Take care!

FOUR DINNERS said...

push him down the stairs? take care babe x

Biddie said...

Gardenaia - It just becaomes so tiresome. I hope that he becomes bored and moves on. It's not likely...Thanks for the prayers, I can use them.

Mone - Thanks for stopping by! It does happen all over the world, and way too often. I wish that no one would would ever have to go through this again...

4D - I am SO glad that you are back! Howz the family? Jax ok?
Fortunately, Rudi lives on a farm, about 40 minutes away, so I'm hoping that I won't run into him any time soon. I don't think that I am the only person that would like to see him fall down a flight of stairs....

Tom Bailey said...

Living a happier life is often the best revenge. A negative attitude towards him even though he well earned it saps your energy. Living a powerful and happy life is the best thing you can do for all involved.

Biddie said...

Tom Bailey - You are 100% correct! Living a happy life is the best revenge! I discovered that a few years back. The 7 or so months that we have lived here have been blissfully Rudi-stress free. I want nothing more than to forget about him and move on, but he won't let that happen. Actually, I ahve moved on. I have a great Hubby, and a pretty good life, overall. Unfortunately, Rudi doesn't seem able to move on, and I am expecting a whole lotta trouble in the next few months.

Biddie said...

Coffeypot - I was wondering if you were going to stop by! I almost feel sorry for Rudi, because he is so unhappy. He has lots of money, cars, property, and a whole lot of anger and hate!
I wish that things could be different, but they are what they are. He has become such an awful person that the kids are better off without him. I don't understand how a parent can walk away from their kids, tho. It will always be a mystery.
He really isn't worth the price of a bullet. Thanks for the offer, tho! :)

ldbug said...

Oh, what an ass!! Yes, you can be charged, but no worries, I'm sure it'll be dismissed easily.

Good luck and here's to hoping for better times ahead!

Biddie said...

Snowcrush - I'm not worried about being charged with anything. He doesn't come around, ever, unless it's to start trouble. KC came home almost in tears today because she was certain that Rudi was following her. It has happened before. Anyway, I'm glad that you're back. Hope you feel better soon, there seems to be alot of sickness going around.

Anonymous said...

With ref to your ex. He is now perpetuated in legal memory as a certifiable nutjob. In the decision issued on Aug. 15, 2008 by the Ontario Superior Court, in the case of TORONTO-DOMINION BANK v. STANGEN (Rudi & Shannon). I am sorry that I don't have the usual legal citation for the published appearance of this decision.

Rudi and Shannon tried to deadbeat the Bank by pretending they had copyrighted their own names and that the Bank, therefore, owed an enormous sum of money every time it typed up either of their names in a financial or legal document. Rudi and Shannon posted a personal property security document claiming the Bank owed them $17 Million for typing up their names in various documents relating to their debts.
Naturally, the court granted the Bank's request to have the security document annulled.

South of the Border a similar stunt has been tried repeatedly by cranks and con-men (you may have heard of the Montana Freemen, circa 1995, for example) -- some of whom are still in prison for this scam.

Biddie said...

Anon - I saw that there was a reference to them on google, but I couldn't find the rest of the info.
I always knew that he was a nutjob, but this is too rich. It is in writing, a Supeior Court ruling... Thank you so much for sharing this with me.
He and Shannon have lost their big home and are now living in an apartment owned by her parents. I guess that they were really counting on that 17 million.
Do I know you? How did you get this info? You are my hero!

Anonymous said...

Hmmm, I wonder who this is? You are laughable. Not enough guts to use your real name.
Not that I owe an explanation, but since you asked, I NEVER said that my girls were sexually assaulted by Rudi. I don't believe that he has ever done that, and I have never made that accusation.
Rudi did, however, assault me.
Like most abused women, I was afraid of the repercussions if I went to the police, so I didn't..Until he phoned me and threatened to come to my house with a gun to shoot me.
I DID call the police and he was charged.
As for being jealous? Umm, not so much. If you read my blog then you know that Rudi has only been mentioned when there was a problem. I seldom blog about him and I doubt that he has been mentioned here in quite sometime.
He is YEARS behind on his support, does not see his girls, and is a deadbeat. I have nothing to be jealous of.
In fact, I am happier with Shawn than I ever could have been with Rudi. Sure we have our problems, but he doesn't beat on me or force to have sex with him. Plus, he always puts the kids first, something that Rudi could never do. WOULD never do.
You can blast me all you want, but I am ok. I am not living in the past, I blogged about the happenings in my life. Just like other people do. I have no secrets and I am not telling any lies.
As for being fucked up, I used to be, then I divorced the biggest ass that I have ever met.
I am and always have been there for my kids. They know that they are loved by me and Shawn and they have never been abandoned by me. You can say all that you want, but I have retained custody of all of my kids for one reason - I am a good mom and they are happy and safe with me. Not all parents can say that.
I know who you are, 'anon.' It's ok if you want to be a coward. It's all good.
You want to tell my kids what I have said? Go right ahead. Only a really fucked up person would threaten that?
Oh, and anon? Stop haunting my blog.
IT ANNOYS ME.

Bridget

Anonymous said...

Oh, btw, anon, my kids are already aware that their sperm donor is a nut job. Too bad for Rudi, and you, KC remembers most of what happened back then.
It's too bad for her, too, that she has memories of her father hitting her and her mom.

Bridget

Anonymous said...

For one thing YOU DO NOT KNOW ME
I KNOW YOU THOUGH
I HAVE EVEN MET YOU
AND MET YOUR CHILDREN
AND YOU ARE ONE FUCKED UP PERSON
you have over and over again DENIED THOSE KIDS to see their father,
you say he is behind on child suppor???? ummmmm OK
another lie by you
but then again
THAT MONEY IS NOT SUPPOSE TO BE FOR YOU
ITS FOR HIS KIDS
they can go after him later and get it if they want to
but the truth will come out sometime soon on how you KEPT the girls away from him
and you are also lying about things that happened when they stayed at RUDI'S AND SHANNONS
but that will be between the girls in the long run
as for you
again
grow up get on with your life get a job and stop worrying about money that shouldnt be for your wallet and your boyfriends
RUDI isnt supporting YOU AND HIM

Anonymous said...

Hmm, ok. Once again, coward, you won't use your name. if you knwo my kids, then you will know that KC will tell you herself that what I have written here is the trusth.
Rudi has paid support since Kayla was 16. That IS the truth. Also, if you knew me, then you would know that i do not use my support for anything other than bills, food, stuff for the kids. THAT is what support is for, actually, to help pay for these things.
I kept Rudi any from the kids? Ok. once again, ask the kids how many times they waited for him and he never showed. Were they even invited to his wedding?
Umm, NO.
Or did you not know that??
I really don't care what you think. You are too much of a wuss to even use your real name.
Like I said, you kow me and my kids, then you can ask my kids the truth. in fact, I DARE YOU to ask KC. She will set you straight, asshat.
In the meanwhile, why don't you find a new hobby? This is a blog post that I wrote 2 1/2 yrs ago. I am not hung up anything, but you sure seem to be.
bridget

Anonymous said...

Sorry - meant to say that Rudi has NOT paid support since Kayla was 16
That is the truth..I am sure that you can look that up somehow. Or, then again, ask Kayla, if you know her.

Anonymous said...

For someone that hasnt paid attention to this blog for 2 yrs you sure do read it alot over and over again
and as for your kids not being invited to the wedding???? ummmmm think back hard about that one. you seem to put ideas into your head that are not real
that comes with being BI POLAR
I AGREE
but seriously woman you are creating alot of grief
and the reason you stopped talking on this certain blog it is because you were cited for it
have a good life and stop talking shit about others before you look in the mirror at yourself

GET A JOB FATTY AND PAY FOR YOUR CHILDS UPKEEP TOO

STOP DEPENDING ON OTHERS TO PAY FOR YOUR TIME IN THIS WORLD

Anonymous said...

I pay attention to this blog because it is MY blog (and I get an email notification whenever a comment is left).
As for being `cited`for anything? That is laughable. I guess what you are talking about is Rudi`s rambling blog post. Cuz you know, the FBI cares about his hurt feelings.
As for taking care of my kids..Who do you think does that since Rudi has not paid support in more than 2 years? I have always taken care of my kids, ALWAYS. unlike Rudi who has been too wrapped up in his own shit to care.
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